Sunday, November 06, 2005

i cant be what i really am!

i have been thinking n thinking about one thing...
from the v beginning.. when i was v small.. i used to think that i'll take care of my husband in every possible way.. but sadly nothing of that sort happened.
i always thought that i'll cook for him.. will do all his work by myself.
i would love to do that. really
and i always wanted to live with my in laws. i like ppl around me. i like talking
but now.. ive changed my mind.. i think husband and wife needs their privacy.. im not saying that i have a problem living with my in laws.. they really take care of me alhamdulillah.,.. but then i cant do anything independently.. like my mother in law runs a hostel.. so the girls eat here as well.. i think atleast 15 girls.. now imagine making food for 15 girls + our family.. so it just puts one off.. and then they have a maid to do such stuff.. even if i want to ook sumthing.. id have to think about it a hundred times.. all of them have differenct choice.. and they ALL comment on how the food is cooked.. so yeah basically im a coward.. i wish i could cook. i remember before i got married i used to take cooking classes.. i had so many plans.. but none of them worked.
i think that is why islam prefers if the couple moves away.
atleast for sometime.. i duno
or if they dont.. they should have complete privacy in such things
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oh i just read my last post.. for sum reason its not complete! i was just saying that i had a few holidays left but still i came back to islamabad.. one of the reasons being.. i didnt want to travel alone in daewoo.. cuz of what happened with me last time..n i didnt tell anyone about it.. cuz if i do.. i know i wont b allowed to travel alone! so i had no other choice.. and now im missing lhr (people) badly!!!

9 Comments:

Blogger Poetess said...

Well yes, privacy is a dream, specially in the earlier stages of married life and that is when you want it the most.

2:12 AM  
Blogger danishmand said...

we all dream of a life similar to what you imagined but very few of us actually find its realization.:)

I believe Islam to be the only religion that can truly preserve family system through moderation and commitment.However the majority fails to understand the basic teachings pertaining to family system and requirements of privacy for a couple.

you know, I think you must be a great cook which is a disadvantage in your case. If you were a lousy cook like me, your mother-in-law would have hired someone by now;).
Good Luck!

9:50 PM  
Blogger silent observer said...

hehe.. no actually i dont cook at all here.. cuz we have a cook already.. as we have to cook for 20+ ppl everyday! ( we have a girls hostel upstairs)
n seriously i wish i could cook for my hubby :S
pls make dua :)

12:12 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why're you intent on poisoning the poor chap?

1:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

What i mean is, who's stopping you from cooking? Take it up as a hobby! And you can slip in occasional dishes of your own in front of your husband and acquire hidden compliments! (hopefully :))

You sound like a brave girl. Being afraid of the dark is ok. But it's like the Prophet (SAW) once said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger". You've seem to have been brave in deciding the paths of your life, and that easily takes the trophy in my dictionary.

1:24 AM  
Blogger danishmand said...

lol...ofcourse you should be able to cook for your hubby, that's one of the perks of being a wife. and i agree with anonymous, dont let anything stop you from your culinary aspirations. I am sure once he eats what you cook, he won't settle for anybody else's cooking and InshaAllah you will get your dream:)

2:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Of course i'm right!

7:27 PM  
Blogger enigmatic said...

hmm would u eat ur own food?

do u think guys should have to cook for their wife?

3:31 PM  
Blogger silent observer said...

hheheh i would love to eat my own food :p i luv spicy mazaydaar food..!
even if not spicy then curry! but nit shorbay walay salan that much :s

4:27 AM  

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